For the most part we all agreed on all of the surveys which was enlightening as I know which ones I struggle with. It was confirmed that I am an emotional listener and this often clouds my judgement. This is very true as I internalize other people's problems. The surprising result came from my mother's result on verbal aggression. I felt I tend to listen, but will defend myself or a situation when needed, but not attack a person's character. Both my husband and I scored this test as "moderate". My mother's result came back as "significant". I was a little offended by that, but also remember that she usually hears me venting about situations instead of observing me in action so I can justify that score.
The two insights I gleamed this week included the profound impact our schemas have on our ability to communicate whether intentional or not. I am aware of my feelings, but struggle with how to be more conscious of it prior to judging. Personally and professionally, everyone deserves a fair chance and I should not critique them based on my own biases. The other insight that hit close to home was the topic of self-esteem. I have been recently displaced from my position and instead of crawling under a rock, I am choosing to be proactive and perceive this as a new opportunity. I know I made a difference with the standards I brought to the program and I am going to use those experiences, both good and bad, to pursue new opportunities. In talking with colleagues about the situation, many have commented that they are surprised at my positive outlook. Conversely, a close friend of mine has gone through the same ordeal and has suffered from depression. She expressed that she will never find a job and almost defeats herself before trying. They say attitudes are contagious and I hope that mine is worth catching.
Arlene, you are to be congratulated for earnest self-analysis regarding your communication skills inventory. I believe that most of us are in the position of having identified areas for improvement, and can use this exercise to formulate goals for the future. You have outlined steps to become a competent communicator, and self-evaluation is the first step in this important process.
ReplyDeleteIt is my sincere wish for you that this career transition comes at an optimal time. You are in the process of completing a master’s degree in Early Childhood Studies, and will soon have this added credential on your resume. This is also a time of growth in the early childhood field, with many opportunities on the horizon going forward. Your knowledge and experience will bring you to a new position that will be the right one—success awaits you!
Arlene, I learned myself through this task that I am an emotional person. I brought that to both my personal and professional life. I did receive a high complement from my boss that my parents love me due to the fact I sincerely care for what they say and do! I also used my mother and at times i felt like she made me angelic, but really she knows that I am very emotional in everything that I do! I take everything to heart and with lots of thoughts! I really wish you the best of luck in the present and the future! Remain positive! Receiving your Masters shows great strength and hard work. You will meet new experiences during the process and lead to more success! Cannot wait to hear more.
ReplyDeleteI like that you addressed how our schemas are an integral part of the way we communicate. This week I said that one of my goals is to become more aware of the ways my schema impact my ability to communicate. It is great that you are so positive. You always have great posts and discussion pieces are a great conversation starter. Stay strong!
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